Managing Family Finance

 

 

Bob came running into the house and called out, “Honey! Look at the new DVD player I bought!” His wife, Sarah, exited the kitchen and entered the living room with a frown on her face.

As Bob anxiously opened the DVD player and described all its features, Sarah became more and more aggravated. “We don’t have money to be buying DVD players,” she said.

“Of course we do, we’re getting our tax refund soon. Plus it was on sale. I’ve wanted one of these for so long. When I saw it in the electronics store I just couldn’t wait to buy it.”

“We were supposed to save our tax refund towards a down payment on a house!”

“There’s no way we’re ever going to have enough money for a down payment. So why not enjoy the money now? Plus, think of all the movies we can watch together.”

Sarah became flooded with emotion and yelled at Bob, “How could you be so selfish!”

“Me?! Selfish?! I bought this DVD player for both of us! Why are you always such a tightwad?”

Do you and your spouse argue frequently about money? Do you disagree on how to spend or save your paycheck? Does paying the bills escalate into an argument with your spouse that isn’t related to money at all? Do you wish your spouse wasn’t such a “tightwad” or an impulsive buyer?

Money management is critical to the success and happiness of any relationship, including your marriage.

The Family: A Proclamation to the Worldstates that parents have a sacred duty to provide for their children’s physical needs. Money management is a key to a happy family. Beyond physical survival, a family’s emotional survival depends on financial stability and tranquility.

Money can enhance or destroy your marriage and can lead to mistrust, name-calling, selfishness, dishonesty, and even divorce. Research examining the causes of family financial problems shows that money problems are caused by a lack of financial understanding, personal behavior problems, and relationship problems.

Personal Financial Behavior

Although some financial problems are simply caused by poor financial understanding resulting in unwise decisions, research suggests that most financial problems are caused by non-financial, behavior problems such as:

  • Impulse buying
  • Excessive materialism
  • Preoccupation with social image
  • Using money to control others
  • Addictive behavior

Scholars have identified several factors that drive financial behavior, including emotions, personality, and an individual’s attitude toward money.

Money is closely connected to our emotions. Have you spent money on others to control them? Perhaps you have acquired debt to buy gifts and relieve feelings of guilt because you neglected someone? Or have you gone on a shopping spree to overcome sadness or loneliness?

Our personalities also affect our financial behavior. A wife who is carefree and values spontaneity may resist financial planning, budgeting, and saving. On the other hand, a husband who values order, control, and authority may resist spending money on anything but “absolute necessities”; he may also have difficulty sharing financial control with his wife.

Your financial behavior is also influenced by your attitude toward money, which is partly determined by your childhood. Money can symbolize feelings like control, fear, guilt, or abandonment. Do you resist discussing financial matters with your spouse because your parents argued about it frequently when you were young? Did your spouse grow up in an affluent family and, consequently, does not understand the need to budget and save? Do you need to have a new car to feel confident and superior to your neighbors?

Relationships and Financial Behavior

In addition to you and your spouse’s individual financial behavior, your relationship has a tremendous impact on your money. Researchers have identified the following qualities of a marriage that affect financial security:

  • Communication
  • Emotional intimacy
  • Mutual respect and communication
  • Trust and love

If your relationship is plagued by mistrust, poor communication, selfishness, disrespect, or manipulation, you may be likely to have money problems. Some of the relationship issues that can cause financial distress include the following:

  • Poor communication
  • Control and manipulation of others
  • Ill-defined roles
  • Selfishness
  • Disrespect
  • Mistrust

Communication

Effective communication about family finances and goals is critical to money management. Do you know your spouse’s attitude toward money? Do you know and understand his or her financial goals? Do you talk to your spouse before making a large purchase? Do you consult with your spouse about how to spend “extra” money like tax refunds, gifts, or bonuses?

Emotional Intimacy

Do you understand your spouse’s feelings toward money? Do you understand why money matters make your wife anxious? Do you understand that your husband is motivated to save money for a rainy day because his family had money problems when he was a child?

Mutual Respect and Consideration

Do you use money to control your spouse? Do you go on shopping sprees and exceed the family budget because you are angry at your husband? Do you respect your wife’s desire to save money for new curtains-or your husband’s desire to save money for a trip to Hawaii? Do you consider your spouse’s feelings before making financial decisions?

Trust and Love

Do you and your spouse trust that you have each other’s best interests at heart? Do you communicate openly with your wife about your financial income or do you hide some of your money so she won’t spend it?

From their research, scholars have provided insights and recommendations to help families manage their finances more effectively. These recommendations are based mostly on changing behaviors and attitudes. They include learning to distinguish between needs and wants, communicating openly and honestly about family finances, using a budget or financial plan, and understanding the connection between money and family relationships.

Ideas for Managing Your Finances More Effectively

Seek Understanding

  • Be aware that each individual has different values, standards, and goals that influence his or her view of money and its uses.
  • Understand the family financial rules that existed in your spouse’s family of origin and how they affect his or her financial perspective.
  • Communicate openly and lovingly with your spouse about your family financial patterns. Assess your family financial rules and decide which ones you want to keep and which ones you want to change.
  • Increase your financial understanding and skills by using community resources like libraries, schools, and seminars.
  • Consider the motivation behind your financial habits. Do you spend money to “keep up with the Joneses” or improve your social image? Do you spend money to buy the love and affection of others? Do you control the family money too much because you do not trust your spouse?
  • Plan a family activity to teach all family members about the family finances. For example, cash your paycheck and show your children how the money is allocated to various expenses and savings programs.

Change your Financial Behavior

  • Manage your money with a written budget.
  • Make a list defining each spouse’s financial roles and responsibilities.
  • Make purchases that are appropriate to your income level.
  • Make a list separating your basic needs from your wants. Keep expenses constant even when your income increases.
  • Give family members some allowance to spend how they choose without being accountable to anyone.

Cut Expenses

  • Avoid impulse buying. Make a shopping list and stick to it. Don’t carry credit cards or checkbooks. Set time delays or waiting periods before making large purchases.
  • Establish a limit to the amount of money either spouse can spend before consulting his or her partner. This limit will vary according to the life-stage of the couple; it may be $100-200 for an established couple and only $20 for newlyweds.
  • Share the purchase and use of expensive items. For example, buy a snow blower with your neighbors, or purchase a cabin or boat with your family.
  • Calculate hidden and indirect costs associated with a purchase.
  • Set up a thirty-day menu to plan and save on grocery purchases.
  • Eliminate debt and interest payments. Use an accelerated payment or fold-down plan for debt reduction. Avoid using credit for things you do not need.

Prepare for the Future

  • Establish an emergency savings fund of at least three months’ income. If the family has only one breadwinner, consider having savings of six months’ income.
  • Review medical, life, and property insurance policies to make sure they fit your circumstances.

 

 

Extract from BYU Forever Families.

Written by Susan Sheldon

Practical Ways to Save Money

Saving is never an easy venture, it is rather a very difficult task. In fact, it is a lot easier and  pleasurable to spend  because the world around us is designed to make us spend even on  things we don’t need.

 

Saving is a skill you keep learning and  platforms like koloPay makes it  easier to save. With easy-to-use, well designed applications and different  incentives such as high interests on saving or discounts on goals you’re saving towards, one is certainly more encouraged to save  more.

This post is an extract from Dave Ramsey’s ‘the-secret-to-saving-money’ blog post enumerating few ways to save more ;

 Practical Ways to Save Money

Imagine how your life would change if you suddenly had money left in your monthly budget. What would you do with that cash over time? Beef up your emergency fund? Pay off your car? Finally take the vacation you’ve always dreamed of?

It can happen! Just take stock of your spending and identify areas where you can save. When you make a few tweaks to your expenses, you could be surprised at how much money you have left in your budget.

1. Get rid of your debt.

Monthly debt payments are the biggest obstacle to saving money. It robs you of your income! So, get rid of that debt. The fastest way to pay off debt is with the debt snowball method. This is where you pay off your debts in order from smallest to largest. It sounds intense, but it’s more about behavior change than numbers. Once your income isn’t tied up in monthly debt payments, you can finally use it to make progress toward your savings goals.

2. Cut down on groceries.

Most ‘budgeters’ are shocked to find out how much they’re actually spending at the grocery store each month. Save money on groceries by planning out your meals each week and taking inventory of your pantry before you head to the store. This will help prevent you from overspending and wasting food. And think about cutting back on snacks and junk food that can send you over your budget!

3. Cancel subscriptions and memberships.

Chances are, you’re paying for multiple subscriptions like Netflix, Spotify, gym memberships, trendy subscription boxes, or Amazon Prime. Cancel any subscriptions you don’t use regularly. If you really miss one, subscribe again—but only if it fits into your new budget.

4. Buy generic.

In most cases, the only thing that’s better about brand-name products is the marketing. Generic medication, staple food items, cleaning supplies, and paper products cost far less than their brand-name, marked-up competitors.

5. Spend extra or unexpected income wisely.

When you get a work bonus, inheritance or tax refund, put it to good use. You’ll be better off using those funds to pay off your student loans or credit card balance than stashing it away. If you’re debt-free, use those extras to build up your emergency fund.

Bonus tip: If you regularly receive large tax refunds, adjust your paycheck withholding so that you bring home more money in your paycheck each month.

6. Automate your savings.

Save money without thinking about it. Set up your bank account to automatically transfer funds from your checking account into a savings account every month. Or, set up your direct deposit to automatically transfer 10% of each paycheck into your savings account.

 

The sixth nugget is a good place to close and it is  basically addressed by the Autosave feature on the koloPay app, it allows you set auto-debit on your ATM card to your kolopay account. AutoSave allows you save a fixed amount of money daily, weekly or monthly.